That’s how Beth* introduced me to her husband. As a gift for his 40th birthday. What they both didn’t know was that they were also a gift to myself for my birthday too.
I had tried for years to take part in a threesome with various lovers, but it never happened. Either we couldn’t agree on a person we were mutually interested in who wanted us both. Or we couldn’t agree on whether it would be a friend, an associate, an acquaintance or a stranger. Or once, as a threesome was beginning to happen between a lover and a mutual associate who he also happened to be dating, things tanked quickly. She and I were fine. In fact, we were topless in his bed making out like high-schoolers. The moment happened so organically. We were ready, but he was not. He froze. He chickened out. So I went home unfulfilled.
Fast forward, five years later and I’m living in NY, using OKCupid like a Master Siren Wo...
I date multiple men. Let's start there. I am single, as in I am not in a committed monogamous relationship. In order for me to ever commit to one man in that kind of way, its imperative of me to date multiple men until I decide I only want to date one.
Before you form opinons on what it means for me to "date multiple men," go read these posts on my website to understand my philosophy.
Once you read those three posts, some of your initial questions and perceptions will probably be answered when it comes to how I date, how it is possible to love/fuck/commit to more than one person and how maybe I am polyamorous but I could just as easily commit to one man.
It should also be noted that dating multiple men is also different than havin...
I've been asked about open relationships often as of late. It got me thinking about it. I'm currently in a monogamous relationship. I have been in open relationships in the past. An open relationship can work with the right people. Honesty, security & heaps of communication must be involved. I'm certainly far from an expert or experienced in this. Officially, I've only been in one relationship that was labelled as an open relationship. Those of you who are please comment & add to the discussion. Certainly, there have been times when single that I chose to date more than one person non exclusively. I was honest about the fact that there was more than one person I was dating at the time. Some people were fine with it, others were not. The one's who were not chose not to date me. All is fair in love & dating.