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June 9, 2016

The following is an excerpt of a letter sent to a Lover after he asked me, "What did I want our sex journey to be?" It took me a few months to think about, as it was the first time a lover asked the question in that way. After months of passionate bliss, after growing and loving and evolving with him, I finally answered his question. This is a real letter I sent to a lover, with a few personal tidbits taken out. It still contains personal details most probably wouldn't readily share but I think its important to also have these conversations out loud.In fact, I even posed the question to my friends on facebook to hear what they had to say and some of their responses are at the end. I imagine that although somethings will always remain the same for me regarding my personal sexual journey, no matter who my lover is, that also for every lover in my life, this letter would be different. I think...

June 4, 2016


Recently, I shared part one in the story of my threesome. It's time I share the rest of what happened once Beth introduced me to her husband Derek as his 40th Birthday gift, right before our dinner at Beauty and Essex.


Dinner was pretty standard. In the sense that we were at a restaurant and ate food. (It also happens to be one of my Top 10 Sexy Places to Dine in NYC). However, in retrospect, I wonder what those around us must have thought. After ordering nearly everything on the menu…. I do recommend everything on the menu,  Derek and Beth changed our seating arrangements. They wanted to sit in a booth. They wanted close proximity. SO they sat me between them, and they both scooted in real close to me. There was no space between us all. Unless they were eating, their hands were on me. The waitress raised an eyebrow but didn't ask questions.


“You're beautiful. I love your hair.”



June 3, 2016

That’s how Beth* introduced me to her husband. As a gift for his 40th birthday. What they both didn’t know was that they were also a gift to myself for my birthday too.


I had tried for years to take part in a threesome with various lovers, but it never happened. Either we couldn’t agree on a person we were mutually interested in who wanted us both. Or we couldn’t agree on whether it would be a friend, an associate, an acquaintance or a stranger. Or once, as a threesome was beginning to happen between a lover and a mutual associate who he also happened to be dating, things tanked quickly. She and I were fine. In fact, we were topless in his bed making out like high-schoolers. The moment happened so organically. We were ready, but he was not. He froze. He chickened out. So I went home unfulfilled. 

Fast forward, five years later and I’m living in NY, using OKCupid like a Master Siren Wo...

June 2, 2016



What do you want your dating and love life to FEEL like? What is it that you want to EXPERIENCE?


I’ve come across quite a bit of jaded, exhausted, bitter, sad, hurting and/or bored people who are “tired” of dating. In fact, after breaking up with one lover and checking in with him, he said he was so tired of his repeated cycle that he might just marry the next woman who had all of her teeth, for simplicity sake.


I want to offer some food for thought and a perspective shift because I simply cannot imagine ever being tired of dating. DATING, to me, is so amazing, fun and adventurous. Sure, some people have challenging personalities, need a little self-improvement or simply are not for me but DATING! How can one be tired of dating?!?! I define “dating” or a “date” as the intentional time set aside to spend with someone I am drawn to on an emotional, sensual, physical, sexual, spiritual and/o...

February 18, 2016


Top 3 Things Women do Wrong when Giving Head


3. Inhale on the approach


Most women, for some reason, take a deep breath in when they get ready to give head. They think they’re INHALING his penis. No! You’re sucking. If you notice your shoulders go up and your jaw closes.  When it comes to giving head you should EXHALE. When you breathe out your shoulders fall down and your jaw opens up. You increase your mouth capacity by 33%.  The more you can get in the more he’ll love it.


2. Not using tongue


What do you do with your tongue when you’re giving head? Many don’t even think about it. We spend most of our time trying to get things out of the way. Well when you stick out your tongue you create space within your mouth, as well as a sensation in his shaft that will drive him mad. The increased wetness allows you to make wonderful sound effects.


1. Wrong Attitude


I cannot stress this enough....

July 10, 2015

For the next 60 days I will be sharing a chapter a day of my first POP EROTICA novel.  Bang Bang Bang, A summer of sin in Brooklyn. 



Chapter Twenty Two



Max sat up on his couch.  His brain was buzzing.  Hangovers were not his thing.  He walked slowly to the fridge, got a pitcher of water and took it to the head.  He walked back to the couch and sat down, turned the television on hoping something really boring could put him out of his misery.       

   Everything seemed dreamy; he could not tell if he was asleep or awake.  There was a knock at his door.  “Who the hell could this be?”  He got up to check the door.  He was wearing a pair of white jockey shorts.  The only person he was expecting was Sophie, she should be heading home by this time but she had her keys so who could it be?

   He checked t...

July 9, 2015

For the next 60 days I will be sharing a chapter a day of my first POP EROTICA novel.  Bang Bang Bang, A summer of sin in Brooklyn. 



ChapterTwenty One


“Let’s do lunch tomorrow.”  A text landed on Max’s phone.  It was Amanda.

   “Where?” Max replied. 

   He did not want to meet her but he knew he had to sort out the details of their ongoing rendezvous.  The first time it happened he felt bad and he hated himself for it, but by the third time he knew he was a bastard.  It was not like she was forcing herself on him.  He could have said no. 

   “Meet me at the diner at Atlantic and Third.”

   “What time?”


   Max wondered what Amanda had up her sleeve.  For a moment he really wanted to know but then he thought about his boy Maurice.  “Damn, what kind of a person am I?” he thought to himself.  Then he had a weird t...

June 10, 2015


I want to share some of my thoughts about the nature of loving and fucking, as I see it.


You know what I'm talking about right. When some people get all soft eyed and say, "We made love." Or when others say with power, "We Fucked!"


Listen, when I hear the term “making love,”,I’m usually baffled. I know for some it conjures up romance, sweet nothings and silk sheets but to hear someone say that they are “making love” is like hearing someone say that they are “making truth.” Truth is truth. It can’t be made. Either it is or it isn’t. There aren’t any tricks to truth. You can't "make" it.


In my opinion, love is the same way. You can not make love. Just as you can’t “make energy,” you can’t “make love.”


When poeple say that, are they trying to describe the fact that their lover licked their nipples instead of biting them? How is one any less loving than the other? 


What it boils down...

June 5, 2015


Two years ago I wrote the following desire.......


I want a website and community that explores sexuality unabashedly.


I don’t want cute fluffy shit that avoids the nitty gritty.


Where is the middle world?

Where academics are discussing all the various issues of sexuality and where kinksters are letting their freak flag fly.


I want to live in that world.


Where is the raunchy yet academic community at?

Where is the fire and ice?

Where are people discussing real issues and not just sugar coating shit.


Sure I’m inspired by Susie Bright and Pamela Madsen but where are the rest of them at.


I’m a freak.

I’m a sensualist.

I like licking and I like lashes.

I like pornography.

I like musing on how sexuality opens up the doors to creative personal cultural spiritual wholeness.


I want it all.

I want to read articles o...

June 3, 2015


I tend to write letters to my lovers. I like them to know exactly how the experience of them makes me feel. This one was initially entitled, "About That Fuck." 


The way you stroked your dick deep inside of me is mouthwatering. The pleasure of you causes me to growl.

It causes me to moan.

It causes me to scream your name.

You feel so good inside of me. The motion of your pelvis. The placement of your hands. The sound of your breath.

You are intoxicating.

Your body, addictive.

Your lips, your mind and the sound of your voice......exhilarating.

I melted. I melted onto the floor when you were done with me. The pleasure was almost more than I could stand. You just kept going. You had a firm grasp on my ass, on my hips, on my waist, on my neck, and on my hair. You didn’t say a word.

You just fucked.




Until I collapsed on the floor.

Later that night, we fucked again.


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