Dinner was pretty standard. In the sense that we were at a restaurant and ate food. (It also happens to be one of my Top 10 Sexy Places to Dine in NYC). However, in retrospect, I wonder what those around us must have thought. After ordering nearly everything on the menu…. I do recommend everything on the menu, Derek and Beth changed our seating arrangements. They wanted to sit in a booth. They wanted close proximity. SO they sat me between them, and they both scooted in real close to me. There was no space between us all. Unless they were eating, their hands were on me. The waitress raised an eyebrow but didn't ask questions.
That’s how Beth* introduced me to her husband. As a gift for his 40th birthday. What they both didn’t know was that they were also a gift to myself for my birthday too.
I had tried for years to take part in a threesome with various lovers, but it never happened. Either we couldn’t agree on a person we were mutually interested in who wanted us both. Or we couldn’t agree on whether it would be a friend, an associate, an acquaintance or a stranger. Or once, as a threesome was beginning to happen between a lover and a mutual associate who he also happened to be dating, things tanked quickly. She and I were fine. In fact, we were topless in his bed making out like high-schoolers. The moment happened so organically. We were ready, but he was not. He froze. He chickened out. So I went home unfulfilled.
Fast forward, five years later and I’m living in NY, using OKCupid like a Master Siren Wo...
What do you want your dating and love life to FEEL like? What is it that you want to EXPERIENCE?
I’ve come across quite a bit of jaded, exhausted, bitter, sad, hurting and/or bored people who are “tired” of dating. In fact, after breaking up with one lover and checking in with him, he said he was so tired of his repeated cycle that he might just marry the next woman who had all of her teeth, for simplicity sake.
I want to offer some food for thought and a perspective shift because I simply cannot imagine ever being tired of dating. DATING, to me, is so amazing, fun and adventurous. Sure, some people have challenging personalities, need a little self-improvement or simply are not for me but DATING! How can one be tired of dating?!?! I define “dating” or a “date” as the intentional time set aside to spend with someone I am drawn to on an emotional, sensual, physical, sexual, spiritual and/o...
Last year I went on a few dates with a man who identified as a Submissive in the BDSM world. As I thought about our possible dating adventures, I recoiled at the idea of a future with him. In discussing my "issues" with a friend, I was given a new lens by which to view submissive men. You should know that I'm constantly open to realizing my judgment and understanding needs critique, refinement, and growth. Sometimes my perspective needs a complete 180 or a deeper dive. Therefore, I was pleasantly surprised to shift my thoughts when it came to submissive men in the bedroom.
When I speak of a “submissive man,” in this context I’m referencing “submissive men” within the BDSM and/or Kinky and/or Fetish world. I’m talking your erotic escapades or sexual acts. I’m talking about when he consistently wants you to take charge in bed. I’m not talking about his personality as a man. He could be a...
If you’ve spent any amount of time with me, you’ll quickly learn some of my catch phrases. I describe things, people, and experiences as “Yum.”
“Look at her! She’s yum.” “How was my day? It was yum.”
There are two other phrases I use practically EVERY SINGLE DAY!
#WolfShit and #SirenShit.
I say it so much…. I reference myself as both so much….. I call others those names so much that I’m often asked, “What is a Wolf and what is a Siren?” I’ve also learned after attending the latest Sweet Spot show in New York City, that “the Wolf” term & hand symbol has cycled into rotation throughout the show. Have you seen the cast hold up “the Wolf” sign? You’ve probably held it up too!
I want to introduce you to my concept of the Siren and the Wolf and then, the next time I see you at the show, I really want to see you howl.
Women can come violently, spastically, enduringly …but copiously?
Absolutely! The truth is approximately 20% of women have reported ejaculating in one form or another. Those who have felt the release, strongly recommend it.
My friends over at Libida.com have come up with some suggestions to help those who want to explore the realm of ejaculation – the female way.
Put on the Pressure!
Most women report that their first experience of ejaculating came from stimulating the G Spot (the area of spongy tissue surrounding a woman’s urethra – It can be felt 2-3 inches on upper wall of vagina. Pressing and rubbing this spot causes it to swell leading to intense excitation, and orgasm. This is the most direct route to ejaculation.
The G-spot is easy to find when it is stimulated, but requires deep pressure to find it when un-stimulated. A firm, angled toy is often needed...
Did you go to the Art of Fellatio Live Event? It kicked off the 2016 season in the Queen City Charlotte, NC. Both woman and couples gathered to receive first hand from the Head Mistress.
Nikeema Lee, The Sweet Spots very own resident sexpert, hosted this year’s first event to a sold out audience. This included eager learners from as far as Columbia, SC.
For some not even an 3 hour traffic delay prevented them from learning better ways to perfect this art form. It was a great and fun night. If you attended please post your photos and share your experience.
All I can say is that this event was a dream comes true. Thank you all who attended. Secure your seat at the next event The Art of Fellatio
Most women, for some reason, take a deep breath in when they get ready to give head. They think they’re INHALING his penis. No! You’re sucking. If you notice your shoulders go up and your jaw closes. When it comes to giving head you should EXHALE. When you breathe out your shoulders fall down and your jaw opens up. You increase your mouth capacity by 33%. The more you can get in the more he’ll love it.
2. Not using tongue
What do you do with your tongue when you’re giving head? Many don’t even think about it. We spend most of our time trying to get things out of the way. Well when you stick out your tongue you create space within your mouth, as well as a sensation in his shaft that will drive him mad. The increased wetness allows you to make wonderful sound effects.
The best organic solutions to intensify your orgasm
Here are the best ORGANIC ways to intensify your Orgasm.
So many women today are having sexual experiences with no climax or achievement of pleasure. Sex is dull, boring and you’ve quietly settling for unsatisfying and disappointing encounters. Having an orgasmic experience during sex is what I call an Universal Truth, something that is absolute. Orgasms should be rich, powerful and consistent. They should impact your daily thoughts and motivate you to new heights. Striving for a fuller orgasmic experience is okay. However in today’s world, toxic creams and unknown foreign objects just don’t cut it. Today’s woman seeks for natural remedies to improve orgasmic bliss.
Here are a few organic ways you can help your body intensify your orgasm.
Water is the key to life. Our bodies are made up of 80% water however our...
There isn’t a man alive who wouldn’t sell his soul for an amazing blowjob. You may feel that you already have a killer head game, and I have no doubt you do, however you may read on and find a few tips that will help catapult your mic skills to new heights. My latest book “Dr.” Lee’s Ultimate Guide to a Rockstar Sexlife, gives you tools and tips you can use to enhance your sexual experience. If you’re a beginner, read the tips and choose two or three suggestions you would like to try. Remember not every tip, tool and technique is for you and will bring pleasure to your partner, so try them all and PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE.
#1 GIVE HEAD
Studies have proven that women who perform fellatio at least 2-3 times a week live a longer life. Now experts can’t determine whether it’s the act itself or the heartfelt enjoyment that leads to a longer life. I believe in the latter. I beli...